Sunday, November 27, 2016

Perfect Go-To's to Snap Out of the "Mommy Funk"

Ahh the "Mommy Funk." We all know what I'm talking about-those moments where you just feel like going back to bed and starting over. Or when you are so stressed out and it's all piling up to the point of no return.

I seem to be the queen of those moments lately and unfortunately, the fancy self-help and coping skills book tips are insanely hard to remember at times when I'm ready to toss my bag of marbles. Whether you've just had a baby, are juggling work and toddlers (add the many jobs mommies have here), it can be very hard to keep moving. I call those moments of mine my "fake happy."

I love my family and I love taking care of them, but sometimes Mom's really do need a break. It's okay to be a human and enjoy some TLC. Without further ado, here are my tips; I hope they help you out when you're at that point of chasing someone down with a spatula.

1. My rule of 5-think of 5 really easy and quick things that calm your nerves and set you back down gently in your happy place. My list is coffee, music (headphones so I can dance while I work), laying down for a quick set of 4-4-4 breathing (breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, release for 4 seconds), a good set of yoga stretches, and my lovely scalp massager. Your list doesn't have to match mine, but these are good for those times when you have no help. Have the kids do yoga with you and make it a quiet game as well!

2. Take a real vacation-with just you!-That one can be tough. Have Dad or Grandma take the kids for a few hours, a day, or even a few days and plan some things you want to do. Believe it or not, this is my first "few days" vacation and has given me the time to actually write this without little hands helping me push buttons. The only rule is that you plan things that make you feel good-don't just clean the whole time. Write a list of the things that make you happy, or things you can't do with the littles. A 9:00 pm painting class is on my list!

3. Take a nap if you can.-Sometimes, those 30+ minutes to recharge are just what you need. If you have a fussy baby, lay down with him and nurse. He'll catch your sleep vibes, especially if you are snuggled together. Just remember to safely co-sleep during naps too.

4. Go on a date, even if you have the kids.-Drop all the stuff that's making you crazy and just get out. You can visit a park, go to an indoor playground, or even just go get an ice cream. Those are fun memories ready to be made and just the act of getting out of the house can switch off that funk.

5. Get a massage- You don't even have to spend a dime. My husband and I have a whole jar of free things we can do when the kids go to bed. This is definitely on that list and is so nice after a hard day. Fall asleep to your spouse's gentle touch. Or just take a 5-minute shoulder rub while making dinner. I love that.

Feel good mommies-you deserve it!